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    <title>Get Tested for HIV!</title>
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    <published>2009-07-02T16:34:03Z</published>
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    <summary> BART (Being About Rapid HIV Testing), a new initiative designed to help community-based organizations provide rapid HIV testing, blows into Chicago July 1-5 during Chicago Black Gay Pride. Testing is from 1 p.m. to 6 p.m. For more information,...</summary>
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<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>BART (Being About Rapid HIV Testing), a new initiative designed to
help community-based organizations provide rapid HIV testing, blows
into Chicago July 1-5 during Chicago Black Gay Pride. Testing is from 1
p.m. to 6 p.m. For more information, go to <a href="http://bartevents.com/" target="_blank">bartevents.com</a>.</div>

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    <title>Athlete Ready for World Cup Action</title>
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    <published>2009-07-02T14:33:03Z</published>
    <updated>2009-07-02T14:46:57Z</updated>

    <summary>When Regina Oliver takes to the lacrosse field later this month in Prague, she won&apos;t be thinking about the statement she&apos;s making. She&apos;ll be focused on helping the United States Women&apos;s National Team Elite division demonstrate its title-winning skills.</summary>
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<div>When Regina Oliver takes to the lacrosse field later this month in
Prague, she won't be thinking about the statement she's making. She'll
be focused on helping the United States Women's National Team Elite
division demonstrate its title-winning skills.<br />
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<div>Oliver is one of maybe four African-American women playing the
sport at this level, and the only one on the 24-member team. The
Pottstown, Pennsylvania, native, who played at Ohio State University on
a lacrosse scholarship, picked up the sport while in middle school.
"It's pretty big in eastern Pennsylvania. My middle school basketball
coach was the assistant lacrosse coach at Pottstown High," Oliver says.
"She suggested I try it to keep myself in shape for basketball."</div>

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<div>She demonstrated natural ability. Oliver went on to play in high
school, joining the national developmental program a few years before
graduating from Ohio in 2005. "This will be my fifth year playing with
the national team and my first time playing in a World Cup," she says.</div>

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<div>The 2009 FIL Women's World Cup will be played over 10 days, June
17-27. Oliver is excited about the opportunity and thankful for those
who've made it possible. "People like Cherie Greer who played on the
2005 World Cup team--she's a true inspiration f
or me. It's a predominantly white sport, and it can be hard not seeing
anyone who looks like you." Greer is in Pennsylvania's Lacrosse Hall of
Fame.</div>

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<div>Even though several who come through the program go on to other
sports or careers, they stick close to lacrosse. Former teammate Jessy
Morgan says her nonprofit organization, Coast 2 Coast Lacrosse, works
with U.S. Lacrosse, the sport's governing body, to encourage minority
girls to pick up a crosse, or stick. The sport was created by Native
Americans and adopted by the French. "That it's more expensive is not
the deterrent to more minorities in the sport," Morgan says. "It's
about exposure."</div>

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<div>Many on the national team are fresh from college or are college
coaches. Oliver says with team members holding down full-time jobs,
living in different cities and coming from different schools, it is
important to maintain team chemistry. "The majority of the time we play
together is in the fall. February through May is the college season."</div>

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<div>They use pictures and e-mail to keep each other inspired to work
out when they're apart. "I've never been a 'let me go for a run'
person," says Oliver, who lives in Pittsburgh. "I have to have
something to motivate me. My teammates play a large role in that and
the fact that the cup is in Australia right now!"</div>

<div>The public also serves as a motivator for Oliver. While some in
the black community wonder how she got into the sport, many find what
she's doing "awesome," she says. "They say, 'It's a breakthrough for
us. Keep it up.' It gives me the chills when I'm out there."</div>

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<div>&nbsp;The positive feelings extend to other athletes on the
developmental and elite teams. "No one treats me like the black girl on
the team. We are 48 women &nbsp;trying to accomplish something great." &nbsp;</div>

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<div><i>--Monette Austin Bailey</i></div>

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    <title>Michael Jackson, Jet and Me</title>
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    <published>2009-06-28T10:23:22Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-29T16:16:09Z</updated>

    <summary>Michael Jackson&apos;s death, like his life brings together everyone of every race -- this time to mourn.&quot; </summary>
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        <![CDATA[<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><a href="http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/images/Brother%20Michael.html" onclick="window.open('http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/images/Brother%20Michael.html','popup','width=1540,height=2227,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0'); return false"><img src="http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/images/Brother%20Michael-thumb-250x361.jpg" alt="Michael-Jackson-Jet.jpg" class="mt-image-left" style="margin: 0pt 20px 20px 0pt; float: left;" width="250" height="361" /></a></span><span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><a href="http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/images/Brother%20Michael%202.html" onclick="window.open('http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/images/Brother%20Michael%202.html','popup','width=1578,height=2257,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0'); return false"><img src="http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/images/Brother%20Michael%202-thumb-250x357.jpg" alt="dandrea-jet.jpg" class="mt-image-left" style="margin: 0pt 20px 20px 0pt; float: left;" width="250" height="357" /></a></span><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Michael Jackson and I shared an issue of Jet Magazine for a week back in November 1987 when he "conquered
Japan." Let it be known that Michael was my cover story, and I was his
centerfold. We were laid out on those sheets together and I will always
"Remember the Time."&nbsp; &nbsp;<br />Brother Michael Joseph Jackson transitioned
back to "The Light" on June 25, 2009 at age 50.&nbsp; Regardless of what
anyone says to me about the lightness of his Blackness, I know one
thing for sure, he never lost his soul power or acknowledgement of the
seed from whence it came.<br />It can be said with confidence that we all
have vices.&nbsp; In my view, Brother Michael's vice was -- skin color. But
make no mistake, he always stuck to his mission, to his higher purpose
to practice and promote unity and racial harmony.&nbsp; And he consistently
used his talents and skills to help the downtrodden on a global scale. &nbsp;<br />The
brother was a bridge over racial waters. People from all walks of life
love and adore him.&nbsp; Look out Elvis fans because Michael Jackson has a
fan base that quite possibly extends to the universe (I'll have to get
back to you with precise datum on that). But for now trust me, his
music was/is universal.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;<br />Brother Michael's music catalogue had
something for everyone. I cannot say which is my favorite Michael
Jackson song because they all stir me one way or another. <br />However,
I repeatedly hit the repeat button on his social conscious music
because that is my bag. Songs like&nbsp; "They Don't Care About Us," where
he exclaims: "Some things in life they just don't wanna see.&nbsp; But if
Martin Luther was livin' he wouldn't let it be."&nbsp;&nbsp; The song and the
video stir my soul to "dance, shout" and shake my "body down to the
ground" because he and Spike Lee took it to the streets, baby. They
took it to the streets of Brazil where more than 50 Brazilian brothers
and sisters of all colors, collectively, spoke out against poverty and
oppression in Afro-Brazilian drumbeats.&nbsp; I'll always remember that.<br />Initially,
I was speechless when I heard of Brother Michael's passing, so I
listened to the expressed thoughts of others.&nbsp; Nichelle Smith of
Gannett ContentOne said: "I don't see MJ as an avatar; I do think he was one
of those folks who was a conduit for getting us along a continuum from
King to Obama.&nbsp; The avatars need artists, writers, entertainers -- and
hairdressers, and accountants, and ditch diggers - who agree with them
in spirit and principle and do things in their smaller circles of
influence that, when added up, equal greater change.&nbsp; I'm thinking how
MJ was a step in bringing kids from all over the world to one place --
MTV -- where they could begin to learn about each other through music.&nbsp;
His death, like his life brings together everyone of every race -- this
time to mourn." <br /><br />His body is gone but his music, his spirit,
continues to be a bridge over racial waters.&nbsp; Let's all "Remember the
Time" when Brother Michael Jackson's visionary, brilliant, artistic
music brought forth unity on earth, and raised our collective
consciousness.&nbsp; <br />As a tribute to his spirit, now is the time to remember
-- the trick is to -- keep rising.&nbsp;<i> <br />-- By Dandrea James Harris</i><br /><br /><br /><br />]]>
        
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    <title>Michael Jackson&apos;s Generosity and Love</title>
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    <published>2009-06-26T04:37:40Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-26T04:44:15Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Among the many accomplishments by Michael Jackson, none was more extraordinary than his support of historically black colleges and the opportunities he afforded disadvantaged youngsters who received a college education through his generosity.&nbsp; Despite his limited academic achievements, and well...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[Among the many accomplishments by Michael Jackson, none was more extraordinary than his support of historically black colleges and the opportunities he afforded disadvantaged youngsters who received a college education through his generosity.&nbsp; <br /><br />Despite his limited academic achievements, and well into the '90s -- through benefit concerts and other activities -- Jackson donated millions to the United Negro College Fund and founded the Michael Jackson Scholars program.&nbsp; <br /><br />In 1988, at a sold-out dinner in NYC benefitting UNCF, he received an honorary doctorate from Fisk University.&nbsp; The event was attended by his close friends:&nbsp; Hollywood luminaries like Liz Taylor, Liza Minnelli, Quincy Jones and Don Cornelius&nbsp; (creator of "Soul Train"), Whitney Houston, Lionel Richie, and Gregory Peck also were part of the celebration, along with captains of industry like Edgar Bronfman, Jr., Clive Davis, and Walter Yetnikoff and more.<br /><br />Jackson later inspired his sister, Janet, to follow in his footsteps by creating The Rhythm Nation Scholars.<br /><br />This is a sad, sad day!!!&nbsp; For a humanitarian with such a big heart to lead a rumor-filled existence and to leave this place so tragically is more unsettling than I can find words to express.<br />Let's just say:&nbsp; Many are fortunate that Michael and Janet shared the view that "a mind is a terrible thing to waste."&nbsp; They've done a lot to "Heal the World!"<br /><br />--<i>Adrienne Rhodes, a former publicist for the United Negro College Fund<br /></i><br /> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Ambi</title>
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    <published>2009-06-24T02:59:18Z</published>
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    <title>Mary Mary </title>
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    <published>2009-06-11T16:34:54Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-11T16:37:40Z</updated>

    <summary>June Heart &amp; Soul, Mary Mary. Survive a job loss.
Learn to love vegetables.
Boost your beauty.
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    <title>Good Stress, Bad Stress</title>
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    <published>2009-06-08T16:07:21Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T16:11:39Z</updated>

    <summary>Negative stress can overwhelm us with extreme levels of pressure, making it almost impossible to work productively. Many family and home life stressors can affect your performance dramatically.</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>In the workplace, there are many times where stress can be a
positive emotion. It can equal production, causing workers to meet
deadlines, find new leads and clients, and drive sales. Over the last
30 years, thanks to technology, our work has become even easier to do
with our gadgets, software and 'round-the-clock access to information.<br />
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<div>But negative stress can overwhelm us with extreme levels of
pressure, making it almost impossible to work productively. Many family
and home life stressors can affect your performance dramatically. Large
scale stressors can include: home foreclosure; a child not succeeding
in school; a relative with a substance abuse problem; divorce or
separation; caring for an elderly, sick or disabled relative; natural
disasters; death in the family; or even giving birth.</div>

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<div><i><b><span style="font-style: italic;">Stress Equals the Job</span></b></i></div>

<div>Many times, it is not problems at home causing the stress. Often,
the root of stress is the job itself. Studies conducted by the National
Institute for Occupational Safety and Health show ongoing stress
ultimately leads to chronic health problems, such as cardiovascular
disease, muscular conditions and psychological disorders. It can cost
you your health and employers billions annually as they try to pick up
the pieces from constant absenteeism, instability and high turnovers.</div>

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<div>"There are several things that can cause negative stress in the
workplace," says Harrison Allen III, a human resources and employee
relations expert in Seattle, with more than 30 years of experience.
"These stressors include co-worker challenges, work environment,
compensation issues, discrimination, even supervisors."&nbsp;</div>

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<div><b><span style="font-style: italic;">Getting Help--EAP&nbsp;Programs</span></b></div>

<div>Surprisingly, many employees are unaware that the ability to
manage stress may be right under their noses. Many large corporations
and organizations in the United States offer comprehensive Employee
Assistance Programs (EAPs). Usually within these EAPs are sub-programs
for stress management and stress reduction.</div>

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<div>"Comprehensive EAPs, also referred to as staff resource centers,
are primarily established to assist20employees to stay healthy, both
physically and mentally," Allen says. "Many organizations recognize
that stress can have a detrimental effect on employee productivity.
Progressive organizations understand the value of having effective
assistance programs because it has been proved repeatedly that healthy
employees are more productive. The better programs assist employees to
make healthy lifestyle changes by providing programs such as exercise,
diet, information, one-on-one counseling and substance abuse."</div>

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<div>These stress management programs are available to every employee and some include innovative, holistic components, such as:</div>

<div><ul><li>&nbsp;psychotherapy</li><li>&nbsp;hypnosis for smoking cessation</li><li>&nbsp;Kundalini yoga</li><li>&nbsp;grief counseling&nbsp;</li><li>&nbsp;mental health assessment&nbsp;and referrals</li><li>&nbsp;exercise classes</li><li>&nbsp;massage therapy</li><li>seminars, workshops and&nbsp;classes on relaxation, time&nbsp;management and personal&nbsp;budgeting</li></ul></div>















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<div>A good stress management program within an EAP will also have
staff members trained to teach stress reduction. These staffers will be
able to show employees there are many simple things they can do to
reduce stress on the job:<br /><br /><ul><li>Be more proactive. Learn how to communicate effectively with
your co-workers, managers and supervisors, even if it means standing up
for yourself.</li><li>Get up, get out. When stress begins to build, sometimes leaving
the scene can do a world of good. Getting fresh air and going for a
walk, taking a few minutes for meditation, even listening to soothing
music are quick and simple stress reducers.</li><li>Laugh. This is always the best medicine and a great way to
reduce stress. A joke, a funny story or silly picture can always put a
smile on your face and may even get a chuckle or two.</li></ul></div>





<div><i>-- A.K. Cabell&nbsp;</i></div>

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<entry>
    <title>Fly (Nearly) Free </title>
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    <published>2009-06-08T16:04:56Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T16:07:00Z</updated>

    <summary>Air Tran Airways and Southwest Airlines, have &quot;put the U.S.A. on sale</summary>
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<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Two of America's largest low-cost airlines, Air Tran Airways and
Southwest Airlines, have "put the U.S.A. on sale," according to Tom
Parsons, CEO and founder of Besfares.com, a discount travel Web site
that monitors air travel. Parsons says Air Tran Airways has given
consumers some super-low airfares for travel through November 4, 2009.<br /><br />&nbsp; <i>--Michael H. Cottman</i></div> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>First Dance Goes to My Father</title>
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    <published>2009-06-08T16:00:35Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T16:04:02Z</updated>

    <summary>Everyone who has spent any considerable time with me has heard me say it: &quot;I love my daddy!&quot; Not dad, but daddy, and that is how I refer to him, even though I&apos;m nearly 30. Every year Mother&apos;s Day comes around and you can&apos;t escape the &quot;love your mom&quot; blitz. I can&apos;t say ditto every third Sunday in June, but that doesn&apos;t mean I don&apos;t celebrate Daddy every chance I get.</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>
Everyone who has spent any considerable time with me has heard me
say it: "I love my daddy!" Not dad, but daddy, and that is how I refer
to him, even though I'm nearly 30. Every year Mother's Day comes around
and you can't escape the "love your mom" blitz. I can't say ditto every
third Sunday in June, but that doesn't mean I don't celebrate Daddy
every chance I get.<br />
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<div><br />
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<div>I love both my parents, but I share something unique with my dad.
As a child, I thought every girl had a similar relationship with her
dad as I did with mine. A few years and a thousand conversations later,
and I realized this isn't the case. Instead, what I heard are tales of
absent fathers or unhealthy relationships between fathers and
daughters. Through most of these stories, even when a strong bond
existed with their mothers, I still heard a yearning for that healthy
connection with their dads.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>I have come across a few women whose relationships with their
fathers are comparable to mine. They, like me, intertwine dad into
their conversations, reflecting on him as friend, adviser, biggest fan,
sincerest critic, voice of reason, source of confidence, therapist&nbsp;</div>

<div>and spiritual guide.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>At a certain age (think: puberty), most girls are more comfortable
sharing certain things with mom. Although Mom and I are now best
friends, it wasn't so when I was growing up. Dad got to hear all of
those things I probably should have spared him. One hot summer
afternoon a girlfriend came by so we could go swimming. I calmly
announced to my father, "I can't go swimming because I'm on my period,
and I don't think it's a good idea to have all that red in the pool.
But we can do something else." Without flinching, my dad said, "Oh,
okay." The only person uncomfortable with that exchange was my
girlfriend. The second we walked out of the living room, she asked,
"How the hell could you say that in front of your dad? Weren't you
embarrassed?" She definitely didn't understand our bond.</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div style="text-align: center;">****</div>

<div>It's not what Daddy has bought me. Instead it's the moments we
share, and we've had quite a few, many of them set against the backdrop
of a long walk.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>My first walk on the beach was with my dad. We talked about guys.
He didn't exactly tell me what to look for in a guy. In fact, he
highlighted a few of his own shortcomings, which, in essence, told me
what to avoid. Actually, what it subconsciously led to is the
foundational recipe for relationships, and this is what I've shared
with the men who have come into my life: love God, love yourself and
without question, you've got to learn to love me exactly the way I am
while desiring me to be the best version of me as I would of you.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Don't get me wrong. Mom makes me laugh, and I have a blast with
her. She's always my choice to have a drink with, and I wouldn't trade
that for the world. But Daddy brings a different type of fun. The two
of us can stay in the house all day working and know we haven't missed
a thing from the outside world. These are the moments that he takes my
already bound master's thesis and doctoral dissertation and marks them
up with edits. It's the moment that he sees a rough draft for a
research article I am working on and he queries me extensively on how I
conducted my focus groups. It's the occasions he turns to me and we
discuss politics, sports or even entertainment.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>"Boy I empathize with that Paris Hilton kid," he said during one
of these discussions. "Based on what you see on television, I wouldn't
want that kind of limelight."&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Then he reminded me: "Girl, you are doing great, but you have no
social life! You've got to want to share all of this with someone. You
are a catch!"&nbsp;</div>

<div>Daddy and I look alike; our likeness in character changes
depending on the day. And for every creative, out-of-the-box, emotional
and crazy moment, idea or venture I've had, my biggest fan has been my
dad. He is rooting for me, win or lose. I have le
arned about being a well grounded, giving person from Dad. Our
relationship has taught me how to treat people. It has fed me
spiritually and emotionally.</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>To my future husband, on that day--our day--when we decide our two
halves should become one, that first dance goes to my father. Without
him, I would not be the person you desire.<br /><br /></div>

<div><i>--T. Richard</i><br />
</div>

<div><br />
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</div>

<div><br />
</div> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Get Unstuck</title>
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    <published>2009-06-08T15:55:41Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T15:58:54Z</updated>

    <summary>Life, unlike a broken down car, won&apos;t always give us obvious indicators that it&apos;s in need of repair. You just stall. </summary>
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<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>If you've ever gotten your car entrenched in a patch of mud or
stranded on a mound o
f snow, you can relate--at least physically--to the frustration and
helplessness of being in a rut. Spin tires forward and you go nowhere.
Thrust gears into reverse and you get the same result. Until a tow
truck plays cavalry to your damsel in distress, there's plenty of time
to reflect on how you wound up in the present predicament. In our much
more complex and much less metaphoric lives, however, getting out of a
stuck place isn't as swift. Life, unlike a broken down car, won't
always give us obvious indicators that it's in need of repair. You just
stall.&nbsp;<br />
</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Identifying that we're in a rut takes self-reflection time that
may not be built into the tight schedules we balance. So the routine of
just getting by can quickly and quietly become second nature. "Most
women fall into ruts because we embrace more than we probably should be
taking on," says Nashawn Turner, founder of Uniquely Designed Coaching
LLC, a Virginia-based life coaching business. "So when we get
overwhelmed, we find ourselves trying to do whatever's easiest and move
in the direction that causes us to develop bad habits." The robotic
motions of commuting to work, coming home, cooking dinner, helping with
homework and going to bed just to do it all over again the next day may
seem harmless albeit humdrum. In actuality, it traps sisters into
joyless existences with lack of purpose and passion.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Standing in neutral is one thing; shifting gears to move out of a perpetually
stuck place is another. Turner suggests implementing these six steps
for rocking out of a rut and re-engaging in life.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>


<div><b>Ask yourself:&nbsp;</b></div>

<div><b>1.</b> Is this what you thought your life would be like? Visualize
living free from your regular routine. Understand that it's your life
and you can choose how you want to experience it.</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div><b>2.</b> Contemplate what caused you to get in the rut in the first
place and then find out what's causing you to stay stuck. "There's a
familiar saying: What you resist will persist," Turner says. Deal with
issues that have kept you in a stale, unsatisfying and predictable
life, and affirm that you will no longer miss out on enjoying it. "I
tell all of my clients change begins with a decision," Turner says.
"Only you can say when enough is enough of the same old-same old."
Write a list of things you want to add or subtract from your life.
Establish little changes to get immediate results so you can feel and
see you're moving forward.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div><b>3.</b> Gather resources to nurture change and help you maintain focus.
Books and workshops may assist you. Rally family and friends--or make
new acquaintances--to help fuel your change.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div><b>4.</b> Be conscious and move through life awake. "Pay attention to
your thoughts, words and20actions because these are what establish your
behaviors and routine," Turner says. "We get into ruts based on how we
think about things. We keep speaking and thinking those things, and our
actions are manifested in that way." When you find yourself falling
into old habits, ask why you're doing it. That thoughtful moment will
enable you to make an alternative choice.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div><b>5.</b> Create a list of things you always wanted to do or draft a
vision board that reflects your new way of life with empowering
pictures and phrases, and then post it where you can see it every day.
Before bed, Turner says, "write down what you did differently and ask
yourself how close you actually got to living out your change."&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Initiating a new routine is rarely easy. But after a while,
operating from a stuck place isn't so effortless, either. It can take a
while to dig into a rut, so expecting an overnight turnaround is surely
a setup for disappointment. Being active in the process of change and
recognizing that a new day is another opportunity to make it happen is
better than beating yourself up for not accomplishing the goals you set
the day before. Sometimes just starting the car and putting your foot
on the accelerator is all the catalyst you need.</div>

-<i>-Janelle Harris&nbsp;</i> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Traveling in Pairs</title>
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    <id>tag:heartandsoul.com,2009:/heartandsoul//4.125</id>

    <published>2009-06-08T15:53:17Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T15:54:54Z</updated>

    <summary>Going on a girlfriends&apos; getaway? Try these tips to help you live together on vacation:</summary>
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<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Going on a girlfriends' getaway? Try these tips to help you live together on 
vacation:<br /><br /></div>


<div>-Keep It Small. "When it comes to your girlfriends, bigger ain't
always better," says travel expert Michael Andre Adams, who advises
limiting the number of people traveling. It also pays to choose your
friends wisely. &nbsp;If you have trouble spending one afternoon with
someone, don't take her on a one-week cruise.<br /><br /></div>

<div>-Two to a Bathroom. "If the plan includes shared accommodations,
cap it at two to one bathroom," Adams warns. Fighting for bathroom time
can bring out the diva in the sweetest darling. <br /><br /></div>

<div>-Talk Before You Take Off. Get together to decide sleeping
arrangements, who showers first, what activities to do and how to divvy
up the bills. &nbsp;Ironing out the fine details before you leave will help
keep confusion and anxiety at bay. <br /><br /></div>

<div>-Get Some Space. Just because you're traveling together doesn't
meant you have to spend every second together. In fact you shouldn't.
Bring a book, take a nap, exercise--do something alone. <br /><br /></div>

<div>-Take a Big Girl Pill. Think positive and expect to have a great
vacation, but be realistic and know there may be blips along the way.
Be prepared to be the bigger person and let little things go. <br /><br /><i>--Lorraine
Sanabria Robertson</i></div> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Nothing to It</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/2009/06/nothing-to-it.html" />
    <id>tag:heartandsoul.com,2009:/heartandsoul//4.124</id>

    <published>2009-06-08T15:51:13Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T15:52:28Z</updated>

    <summary>Feeling the need to hang a &quot;do not disturb&quot; sign on the door? If health and well-being are a priority on your to-do list, take an authorized timeout and temporarily dismiss your multitasking genie.</summary>
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<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Feeling the need to hang a&nbsp;"do not disturb" sign on the door? If
health and well-being are a priority on your to-do list, take an
authorized timeout and temporarily dismiss your&nbsp;multitasking genie.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Call it mastering the art of nothing. As demands in our personal
and professional lives get more complex, it becomes more important to
schedule time for doing absolutely nothing, even if just for five or 15
minutes a day.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Start by finding a quiet space that filters out all distractions.
Whether a study or the backyard, choose a place where you can easily
just be--and be most comfortable. Next, breathe deeply. It is a simple
technique that is critical to supplying the body and organs with oxygen
while helping get rid of toxins. Try prayer or meditation to de-stress
in the middle of a hectic day. At home, make use of the bathtub and set
up a mini spa. Drop in a fragrant bath bomb to enhance the experience.
Lastly, turn off the radio in the car or resist the urge to read a
magazine in the checkout line.&nbsp;</div>

<div>Remember, nothing can make everything perfect. <br /><br /></div>

<div><i>-- Ayana M. Davis</i></div> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Ask Nichele</title>
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    <id>tag:heartandsoul.com,2009:/heartandsoul//4.123</id>

    <published>2009-06-08T15:40:58Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T15:42:38Z</updated>

    <summary> I need to lose weight for my wedding in August. Will wearing a vinyl sweatsuit help?</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span><span style="font-style: italic;"><b>Q.</b> I need to lose weight for my wedding in&nbsp;August. Will wearing a vinyl sweatsuit help?</span></div>

<div>


<div><b>A.</b> Every time I see somebody walking around my favorite park in a
rubber suit, I pull out my CPR card and get ready to hit 911 on my cell
phone. Sweating is good. I sweat early, often and everywhere.
Evaporating perspiration cools us off. That's what it's for.</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>You can safely and effectively lose one to two pounds per week by
reducing your daily calories and upping your physical activity to
create a calorie deficit each day--calories in versus calories out.
That's the only &nbsp;magic there is. If you start your program today, you
can safely set your goal at four to 18 pounds by August 1. Involve your
bridesmaids and family. Set up a little healthy competition and
support. Have a wedding day 5K walk and fun run.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>And if are trying to sweat to avoid retaining water, drink more
water. Your body won't work so hard to hold on to it if it's getting a
regular and plentiful supply.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>
</div> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Skip the Bird&apos;s Eye View</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/2009/06/skip-the-birds-eye-view.html" />
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    <published>2009-06-08T15:37:52Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T15:40:36Z</updated>

    <summary>If you&apos;re a frequent flyer, you may know that long airplane flights increase your risk of deep vein thrombosis (DVT), a potentially deadly blood clot that usually starts in the legs. But did you know that where you sit on an airplane also could affect your risk of developing the condition?</summary>
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<div><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>If you're a frequent flyer, you may know that long airplane
flights increase your risk of deep vein thrombosis (DVT), a potentially
deadly blood clot that usually starts in the legs. But did you know
that where you sit on an airplane also could affect your risk of
developing the condition?</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>It might, according to a study by Dutch researchers in the British
Journal of Haematology. Researchers compared 80 DVT sufferers with 108
control subjects who'd recently flown for at least four hours. They
found that passengers sitting in window seats doubled their risk of
DVT; no increased risk was found for those in middle seats. Weight
appeared to increase the danger: Obese passengers in window seats were
six times more likely to develop DVT than those in aisle seats.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>One explanation for the increased risk: Passengers are more
cramped in window seats. Another is that passengers fall asleep by a
window. In fact, sleeping for several hours at a time during long
flights is known to increase one's risk of a blood clot, which can be
deadly if it travels from the bloodstream to the lungs, causing
pulmonary embolism.</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>Researchers found that flying business class reduced passenger
risk by about 30 percent. They also found that standard advice from
clinicians and airlines for preventing in-flight DVT--drinking water,
exercising, wearing compression stockings and avoiding alcohol--was
inconsequential or had an opposite outcome.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>But one of the study's critics cautioned against reconsidering
preventive advice for passengers. The study sample was just too small.<br /><br /></div>

<div><i>--Nicole Crawford-Tichawonna</i></div>

<div><br />
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<entry>
    <title>Affordable Birth Control</title>
    <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://heartandsoul.com/heartandsoul/2009/06/affordable-birth-control.html" />
    <id>tag:heartandsoul.com,2009:/heartandsoul//4.121</id>

    <published>2009-06-08T15:35:29Z</published>
    <updated>2009-06-08T15:37:19Z</updated>

    <summary>Remember the good old days when you paid between $3 and $5 for birth control pills? If you get your contraceptives at a health clinic or on a college campus, affordable birth control may be back. President Obama recently signed the Affordable Birth Control Act, a provision in his $410 million 2009 Omnibus Spending Bill, making contraceptives more affordable.  </summary>
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        <![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Remember the good old days when you paid between $3 and $5 for
birth control pills? If you get your contraceptives at a health clinic
or on a college campus, affordable birth control may be back. President
Obama recently signed the Affordable Birth Control Act, a provision in
his $410 million 2009 Omnibus Spending Bill, making contraceptives more
affordable. &nbsp;

<div><br />
</div>

<div>The new law undoes the Deficit Reduction Act of 2005 that caused
the price of birth control to spike for clinic patients, college
students and Medicaid-eligible women, to the tune of &nbsp;$30 and $50 per
month. Many women found they had to make a choice between paying for
food and their birth control. While many pharmacies and clinics started
offering lower cost, generic versions, several contraceptives,
including NuvaRing, were unavailable in a generic form.&nbsp;</div>

<div><br />
</div>

<div>While the law goes into effect immediately, you might not see the
savings at the pharmacy for several months. Most clinics on college
campuses will have to sell off their existing supply at the current
higher pricing before they renegotiate lower-priced contraceptives next
year. Check with your health center or pharmacy to find out when you
can expect to see the savings. &nbsp; &nbsp;--Andrea Collier</div>

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